They say that holding on to something hurts much more than letting go so we should always let it go. But holding on is also so much easier and in the moment of pain, we lack the strength to let go. In our moment of weakness, no matter how much it hurts, we hold on because it is the only thing we know how to do, it is the only thing we are capable of doing. We cannot look beyond the void of emptiness and uncertainty of letting go, we become afraid and hold on tighter… and the tighter we hold, the more it hurts and the more it hurts the more afraid we become and the harder it gets to let go. It’s a vicious cycle.
So what can we do? We can only wait till we slowly loosen the grip and begin holding on to something new, something that gives us hope and confidence in letting the past go by showing us the future that lay ahead. Let’s say you have been working at a job for several years and have gotten accustomed to it, you even earn well but that is not your passion. Lately, it is getting much harder to go every day and sit at your desk while your mind wanders about the adventures on which you plan to take your characters in that new book you have been writing. After going back home, you are so tired and occupied that you can’t get a moment of peace to sit and write out your thoughts. One day, you decide to quit but you are afraid. All sort of doubts and questions make their way into your mind and you decide to wait it out for another month… it becomes a few more months and before you know it, another year has passed. You feel miserable and helpless. You decide you have had enough and decide to put in your papers but before you hit that send button on your well-crafted email, you pause and tell yourself that you shouldn’t be doing this. Call it fear or your defense mechanism, it is telling you something and you finally yield and delete that email. But you also start dedicating time for writing and slowly you realize that you can handle your job and your passion. Some time passes and you start to reap the benefits of your writing and it becomes easier to focus on your writing and the mundaneness of your job starts feeling forced to you. You decide that you want to quit and dedicate all your time to writing and this time the fear does not set in; it encourages you to take the risk. It may or may not work out but at least you can see things clearly and are willing to give it a chance. You start holding on to something new and finally are able to let go of the old.